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welcome to my life :)

14 Dec

so its been almost 3 weeks i broke up with my hawre. im not even crying on our broke up and im not even feeling lonely or sad. maybe it is the best way for both of us since a long distance relationship might not work between us. so, good bye love for hawre and no more ‘xoshm awey’. being friend is better 🙂 by the time being, i met this guy with a very great personality and of course a good looking i can say. he is actually my senior at my college and yes he is 2 years older than me. we had been texting , calling and getting closer since 3 weeks ago. i think i might have fallen in love with him. but, i not really sure what kind of feeling is it… im just scared if it is a way for me to forget my ex. but, honestly, i love the time we had spend together for almost 3 weeks. im happy being with him and i laugh to his jokes, and that makes me feel easy with him. if its a fate that the guy and me to meet each other, to fall in love each other and to care about each other, i am so happy and i never get to think many times to accept him in my life. dear you, i might have fallen in love with you, but i wanna make sure that your love is true and honest. welcome to my life 🙂


Want To Know What Makes A Woman Attractive?

21 Nov

Men react to the satisfying physical appearance that meets their eyes when they refer to what makes a woman attractive. Moreover, more specific the assessment is made in the buttocks and or breast area first.

So ladies, don’t take my word for it, test it yourself. Wear something to flatter your breasts if that is your best feature or pair of neat fitting pants to place your butt at the centre of attention. You do not need to wear the tightest top or second skin pair of jeans to do the trick. The way your body does the talking must do the magic. Come to think of it, he will only pay attention in the first place if you caught his eye. All you need to do is to keep the eye on you!

When men actually do get past the butt and boob watching. Then they move the focus on to the other fascination they have – lips. Men find it very hard to resist staring at an attractive woman’s lips. What makes lips sexy for men? You are wrong if you thought it is that rouge fatal you are wearing! Men love a natural plump look with a subtle hint of gloss. In fact, men hate lipstick. In order for you to send the message of “kissable lips”, you need to make sure your lips are moist, soft and smooth with very little lipstick if any.

Well, you might not believe this ladies, but men has a huge preference for women with a personality. It is expected of a woman who is regarded as attractive to be confident, have a good self-esteem and some independence will do no harm. So now that you have him interested, do not let go of him.

Introduce him to the real you right from the start. Do not do and say stupid things just to impress him. They are very good at telling the difference between fake and genuine personalities. If you fake it, you won’t make it!

Well, you might think I am lying, but ladies, men craze for a woman with a brain! They will not admit it eagerly though, but an intelligent, good-looking woman is priceless to a man. The pretty, dumb prima Dona usually serves only one purpose for one night only. Not exactly the type of women he would his parents or friends to meet and definitely not the type he would choose to be the mother of his unborn children.

Relationship Advice – Have a Partner, not Competitor :)

21 Nov

Anyone who has ever been in a relationship will agree that it is difficult. Being locked in competition with your partner makes things infinitely more of a challenge. Once this vicious cycle begins, your relationship is in big trouble. By practicing a little damage control as soon as this problem starts can save an otherwise doomed relationship.

Ambitious, competitive people are likely to find themselves in relationships with each other, where this problem is likely to arise. If this description applies to you, you should really take the time to consider whether or not your relationship is suffering from this problem. “Boy energy,” is something Rori Raye talks about – it is the type of energy that women use to reach great heights. She suggests that we women avoid bringing it to our relationships with men, because it can undermine our efforts to make him feel loved, respected, and accepted.

It should be easy to tell if this is a problem for you. He may suddenly shy away from competitive activities, like board games or exercise. If he declines your invitations to participate in competitive activities consistently, you can be sure that there is trouble in paradise.

There are a lot of ways you can throw off the balance in your relationship. Whether making jokes at his expense, or giving him a hard time when he can’t keep up with you on a jog, these little jabs will make him feel as though you are not supportive of him, and that you lack respect for him.

In a healthy relationship, he is seeking your respect, love, and acceptance. When you undermine his efforts and successes, this makes him wonder whether he can expect these fundamental things from you. If he senses that you are unwilling to offer him these things that he needs, he will begin to doubt his role (and yours) in the relationship. This doubt is harmful to your connection.

You should begin to focus on solutions as soon as you recognize this as a problem. Instead of asking what his problem is, you need to ask what your problem is. The need to take away the glory from your partner and claim it as your own is actually an indication of insecurity. Only when you have reconciled this issue with yourself will you be willing and able to give freely the praise and respect that he needs from you.

If you take this relationship advice to heart as soon as you realize that there is a rift in your relationship, you stand a chance of resolving these issues. By putting yourself in his shoes, you can better understand the problem. Competition is a natural part of life, but it should not be a part of your love life! By saving your competitive energy for when it counts, and offering him the love, acceptance, and respect he deserves, you can turn your competitive relationship into one of mutual support.

A must read. Oh my god. This is beautiful. Worth the read.

9 Nov

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband…. The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

upset ;(

1 Nov

Being in a relationship is awesome, but it can also suck. i have a friend whom i cant really mention HIS name here. we were very close since last 2 weeks. we had a very great time together and most of the time my phone rang because of him. i like to have a good relationship with him. but. just a few days later, he turned up to be a different person.a person that doesnt really good and such a jerk. i just wanna tell him that i like him and i really hope that things will be better soon for both of us. i dont wanna create a bad memories with him and yet, i still want to be friend with him.


If I….

18 Oct

If I could sleep, I would.

If I had another chance, I’d take it.

If I was put in the same situations, I’d do things differently.

If I was taken back, I’d be taken forever.

If I was asked what I missed most, I’d answer “my best friend.”

If I was asked if I could be trusted, I’d say yes, and mean it.

If I cry, it doesn’t make me less of a man.

If I love unconditionally, without fear or uncertainty, I’ll be happier.

If I had to spend the rest of my life with someone, it would be her.

If I get impatient, I tell myself “it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”

If I get upset, I don’t react how I used to.

If I fall, I get back up.

If I try and take control, I lose control.

If I could right my wrongs, I would.

I can.

Busted Fitness Myths

15 Oct

No pain no gain.
You need to experience some sort of muscle soreness to see results, but you don’t want to go overboard and cause an injury. Delayed onset muscle soreness occurs when nerve endings get inflamed after you slightly tear your muscle tissues while exercising. As your muscles repair themselves they get stronger and bigger, so you can work them all over again. So yes you do need some muscle soreness to see results, but not acute pain – and rest and recovery is important.

I go to the gym so I can eat what I like, right?
Wrong, 80% of your results come from nutrition. If you’re in the gym for an hour a day, you still have plenty of time to eat badly and your workout isn’t going to make up the difference. Exercising does help – but it isn’t going to cancel out poor eating habits.

The more I exercise the better I’ll do.
If you think making the gym your second home is a great way to get results, think again. Too much training not only results in over-use injuries but also stimulates the stress hormone cortisol, which has been shown to increase fat around the stomach. Ideally you need one to two days of complete rest a week and to keep your workouts to no more the 60 minutes.

If I do hundreds of crunches I’ll lose my muffin muffin top
There’s no such thing as spot reducing fat. You can do as many crunches as you like but if you have a layer of fat over the muscles they won’t show. You need to lose weight by eating well, and bear in mind that the first place you gain fat is the last place you’ll lose it.

Exercising long and slow burns more fat
It’s true your body uses more fat for energy while exercising at a lower intensity but a more intense workout will get your heart rate up higher, which burns more calories during and after your workout. Studies have shown interval training can increase your fitness by up to twice as much as traditional, long, slow distance work and is far more efficient for fat loss.

I should always do cardio first
No, you should do it last. If you do cardio first, your body sees it as a warm up and you’ll start by using glycogen stores for fuel rather than burning fat. You need that glycogen for the short, sharp effort of lifting weight. Doing your weights routine first depletes your glycogen (stored energy in the muscles) stores, so when you hit the treadmill your body will be in fat-burning mode straight away.